Snow Days Are For Family Time

It’s been a rigid freezing week with wind chills making it feel like -27 degrees on some days. People have been warned that being outside for more than 10 minutes could cause frost bite or hypothermia. Everything from federal offices to hospital clinics were closed due to the weather conditions in Michigan. The kids had four consecutive snow days off.

While we have gloom of the days off from school and a detour in our schedules, there was also an opportunity to make time for each other in the moments present.

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Some of my reflections this week:

  1. Life is all curves. Challenges and opportunities don’t come from a straight path to your goal. Embrace the moments.
  2. Take a step back to reflect on where you’ve come from. I was a stay-at-home mom who worked from home by the time I had my last kid. Last year I went back to work full-time and everything has changed since. This week reminded me of those times when I struggled to find meaning and purpose beyond those moments.
  3. Hug your kids longer. This is a no-brainer but the daily hustle and bustle can make the small moments whiz by.
  4. Enjoy the little things in life. This week we spent more time tapping into our spiritual activities such as praying together as a family.
  5. Keep up with your self care. Mothers often wear so many hats that it’s hard to keep up. With house work, child work, work work, the long hours and mental exhaustion can quickly catch up. Therefore don’t forget to put the kids to bed and enjoy a few moments to yourself. Everyday. Even for just a few minutes. (Set a time that works best for you.) Hang in there!

What are some of your reflections on winter days which put a pause on your plans?

Parenting With a Purpose

Take a moment to congratulate a new mother, to share some wisdom with a struggling mother, to share tea with one who’s feeling lonely, bring food over to one who’s busy, to send a nice note to one who’s sad.

My youngest child just received two stitches from falling and hitting the corner of a rectangular coffee table. This time around when one of my kids had to get stitches, I didn’t freak out as much. I’ve learned this is as “normal” as it gets in the parenting world.

Earlier this month my oldest child turned nine. I remember the first time looking at him and realizing, this was it, I have become a mother now. There is no turning back.

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(Photo: Safina’s Photography)

The journey of parenthood has been a work-in-progress. I am always going back to the sketching board, planner and iPhone calendar to schedule in activities as I ponder on the greater purpose and lessons I hope to teach my children. I am always racing against the clock to figure out what makes sense for my family’s needs. So far, we have Quran classes, swimming classes, karate classes. We attempted soccer this summer with our local mosque youth group.

What I’ve learned over the past nine years, and three kids later, is that there is not one way to be a mother or parent. There are multiple factors in how you parent, such as whether your home is a dual-parent working home, single mother home, extended family home. Are you raising your kids with a particular religious background, culture, and/or lifestyle?

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Recently I interviewed six mompreneurs, mothers who are entrepreneurs for Haute Hijab to learn about their journies as mothers and career women. I have also written about things mothers wish to share about parenting with their friends and family.

I encourage people to come together and be that village that raises well-rounded individuals in society.

Take a moment to congratulate a new mother, to share some wisdom with a struggling mother, to share tea with one who’s feeling lonely, bring food over to one who’s busy, to send a nice note to one who’s sad. Connect with others, reach out and be present. Join a Mommy & Me group, like this one. Our individual journeys will come crashing together to affect the future society of tomorrow.

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Let’s stick together and work toward a better today!

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